“Many people view conflict as always painful. From this point of view, unless you enjoy being blamed, put down, and shouted at, it’s hard to be positive about conflicts. So if you see conflict as something entirely negative, you’ll behave accordingly and will probably help create a self-fulfilling prophecy—the more you believe it’s awful, the worse it will get.” (Stewart, 450) I think we should read this chapter because it is about conflict management, which is something I have been learning throughout the class by being more conscious of what I exhale and inhale and why. The quote I selected talks about how your attitude towards conflict (or anything) affects how you respond to and experience conflict, the experience either affirming or rejecting your attitude. Our team hasn’t picked a topic yet, I wasn’t able to do a good job on the “paths” assignment, which in some way has played into my groups slow start on this “team project.” NinjaCook suggested the consequentiality of emotions in IPC as a topic. I wondered if the consequentiality of identities and frames has similar effects to the consequentiality of emotions in IPC. All of this stuff plays into itself.
Bridges No Walls: A Book About Interpersonal Communication, John Stewart.
